Depression | Bullying | Suicide

Everyone is talking about depression NOW.

Everyone is talking about bullying NOW.

Everyone is NOW concerned of suicides.

People are posting all these things like “if you need someone to talk to, I am here”.

But guess what, nobody is there when you need them.

These people don’t even pick up your call or if they by chance pick up your call they are gonna listen to you for a while.. then they will get irritated. They will get irritated because they can’t feel what you’re feeling.

They will make fun of you after a while because they can’t relate. Maybe some things are big for you and they bother you very much but these things maybe small for these people, so they don’t care. They think this person’s mad or that he’s overreacting.

They can’t understand you. They can’t.

Whenever there is a celebrity suicide case or a hit movie on depression or suicide, then only people start talking about such things, and that too for some days. Then they are gonna move on with their lives because no one cares.

So, this time people are talking about depression and suicide because of a celebrity suicide case.

There’s been a lot of talk in the past few days because of the sad demise of Mr. Sushant Singh Rajput, who was a bollywood actor.

He commited suicide and he was found in his Mumbai house hanging, as reported in the news.

He didn’t leave any suicide note or anything, but the police investigated and confirmed that it’s a suicide.

The police found no suicide notes or anything like that.

There can be so many reasons for his suicide. But people are making up things themselves.

But the main thing that the investigation has came up with is that he was depressed. He was seeing a psychiatrist and he couldn’t sleep at night and all that stuff.

But the point is that now you are saying he was depressed and now you are pin-pointing his lines from interviews that claims that he was sad. NOW. NOW, when he is dead.

When he was alive nobody gave a shit. The interviews were done before he was dead but nobody cared at that time.

That saying really makes sense to me that “nobody cares until you are dead”.

People say that if someone is suicidal, they should talk. They should seek help. But it’s not easy. It doesn’t work like that. It’s not easy to talk about your problems when your head is filled up with millions of problems. You don’t even know where to start.

If a person is depressed or suicidal, he either don’t wanna talk or he will share his feelings but he won’t be able to grasp the solution that you give him. The confusion is in their mind. They have so many thoughts tangled up in their heads and when they share their feelings, one more string adds to that.

They need time. Some people share their problems with their friends but their friends too at a certain point, they stop listening.

People consult therapists, therapy takes time. Sometimes a long time and maybe sometimes even therapy doesn’t work. Then people go on medications to calm their minds.

It’s not easy to deal with your own mind when you’re depressed.

Most people are posting on social media that “we are here. Call us. We are here to listen.” But NO. They won’t. They are the people who won’t even pick up your call. They won’t.

I am not saying that everyone is like that but yes, most people are.

Some people hear your story, they will hear it 2-3 times. Then they won’t. They won’t. They will start ignoring you and some people who think (that this is kind of bravery) will say it to your face that they are fed up of this drama. But in reality, saying such things make you an idiot, not some sort of a brave person.

It is said that every hour, one student commits suicide in India.

In the world, 1 person dies every 40 seconds because of suicide.

I read Kriti Sanon’s Instagram post. She is right. People judge you for not posting RIP stories when someone dies.

But infact, people even judge you for posting them. They judge you for everything.

They are like if you don’t post stories then you don’t care and if you post, you want sympathy.

It’s my wish. It’s not necessary to post a picture on social media to show that I’m sad. I can and I cannot. For some people, posting releases a little stress, so let them post. Why judge people for every damn thing.

And these media people, they are the most insensitive creatures. They only want news. They want updates. But you shouldn’t record everything on camera. Celebrities are people too. They are humans. They also have some privacy. Respect that.

Bullying is so common in this world and yet it is not taken seriously. I have seen in schools when childen make complaints and their complaints are not taken seriously. They are told to ignore it, or at most the principle calls the bully and asks him to say sorry. But what is that? Do they think this is gonna solve all the problems. He starts bullying again, because he was never told the reason why bullying is bad.

When that kid who is being bullied goes to the teacher again, the teacher reacts madly at him because he is coming again and again. Then he just keep facing the bullying. And if he can’t, he just give up on his life and it’s so sad.

You people say that ask for help, most schools have counsellors, most schools and colleges are said to be anti-bullying anti-raging. But bullying happens there too.

And you know what. Bullying is also of 2 kinds. According to me.

It is Emotional and physical.

Physical bullying is beating someone. Teachers tend to take it seriously on some level because they can see the scars. They can see the hurt. But emotional bullying, no one can see it. People don’t take it seriously. A child comes crying to his teacher or mother to tell what a person said to him. Maybe it’s a very tiny thing to you but for him, it’s big that’s why he came to tell you. That’s why he cried. Suppose that a child went running to his mother and he told him that this kid in school called him fat. His mother obviously won’t take it seriously because for her it’s a small small thing. Even if the mother did take it seriously, the teachers won’t take it seriously. So no punishment is given to that bully kid, so he will never know that what he’s doing is wrong. He will do these things again. He will increase the intensity. But you know what, the child may stop complaining about bullying but deep down in his mind all the things are settling down.

These things don’t go away even when he grows up.

Bullying can also be classified as direct and indirect.

According to me.

Direct bulling you know. But in indirect bullying, you insult someone jokingly, you may not even consider it as an insult but it is.

I don’t think it’s right to expose someone’s insecurities. You say it was just a joke, but no. It isn’t.

Stop bullying people.

Stop insulting people.

Stop judging people.

Stop making fun of people.

You don’t know what someone is going though.

Be kind.

There are very less people in this world, who actually care, who actually really really care. Don’t ever let them go.

And if you’re one of those, don’t ever change yourself for anything, because the world needs kindness.

– Abhivyakti Jain